A couple of years ago, I heard Simon T. Bailey speak. It was one of those talks that impacts you, but when you walk away, the only thing you have left is a nugget. And this was the nugget I heard:
In some ways, it’s become a mantra for me. Something that pops into my head at random times, reminding me to purge my to-do list. At other times, it’s just a gentle reminder that I can’t really start anything new without letting go of something old. And in those moments, I find myself asking, “What is old?”
That’s when it gets hard. Old things have history and meaning for us, so letting go of them can be a huge challenge. Old things have connection for us. Old things are friendships, barters, swaps, favors, points. Old things often have strings attached. So letting go of them requires major courage.
Old things aren’t necessarily bad. Some old things are good. But we could also paraphrase this quote to say, “You’ve got to get rid of the good to make way for the great.”
So then the challenge is, how do you get rid of the old, how do you get rid of the good, WITH LOVE? How do you make that call, set that boundary, redefine that relationship while still communicating the heart that wants to so love the world?
I don’t have that answer. I just know that the letting go, the making way, the giving up of good, the cutting ties to old, has to happen.
Friend, let’s talk. In the comments. What is OLD in your life? Not bad, just old? What is good? Not bad, just not great? What little nagging thing is in the back of your mind, that maybe you’re just afraid to let go of? How can we, as a community, help you do that? If you need to discuss, leave a note in the comments. There is a lot of wisdom that reads this blog, so I’d like to ask those of you who feel like you have heart to offer to leave a response as well.
Here is what I do know: within you, you have the courage to let go of the old and good. And on the other side of old and good, is a journey full of challenge and fulfillment, tears and sparkling eyes, hope and happiness, and so much more.
Lots of love, and happy Thursday,